If you are thinking about getting help
Then I have three questions for each person in the relationship. These questions are based on principles developed by Dr Sue Johnson who created emotionally focused couples therapy.
Three Questions
- ARE you Available? Can you come and be present in the therapy session with your partner? Can you be present in a way that will promote change?
- ARE you Receptive? Can you come and listen? Are you receptive to change and new ideas? I will actively listen to the difficulties that you both are facing.
- ARE you willing to Engage? I will engage in helping you through the process of change. You will be asked to actively engage with your partner in creating change. Join forces once you recognise the problems. Becoming allies against negative cycles!
Each person in the relationship that is considering coming to therapy, ideally, can answer yes to each of the above questions. This puts your therapy on a good footing right from the start. If you can not answer yes right now, then maybe this is the place for us to start work.
Do you have the time for your relationship?
